old-style conservatism is not just an age thing

I've been reading several discussions on some C of C groups on facebook recently and I've been kind of surprized by some of the discussions. There is such diversity in the views expressed about everything from baptism - to the C of C is THE church - to vocal vs instrumental music. What has taken me somewhat aback is the number of young christians (in age, not years as a christian) that seem to hold the old hardline beliefs I grew up with. As I have gotten older I've moved away from the strict, narrow interpretations of "creed" that were the definition of the C of C. I remember having bible studies with baptist friends with the single purpose of converting them to the real church of christ. I remember the preaching against instrumental music and the visible works of the spirit (healing, speaking in tongues). I struggled with what defines a christian and christian worship. My husband and I encouraged our children to study for themselves and not just accept whatever they were taught as being "right." I came to believe that the view of christianity I grew up with was limited by people - not necessarily by God. I think I expected the struggles of the next generation - the teens and twenty-somethings of today - to have a different set of struggles. After reading some of the discussions this week it seems that we have not moved as far from my starting point as I had believed. Maybe it is a journey that every generation has to take...I don't know. I found it kind of discouraging though. If we are still engaged in separating ourselves from "those denominations" who believe in Jesus - how will we ever reach those who do not believe in Him at all?